When you disagree with someone, do you argue, fight, or try to force what you want?
Do you try to get even or teach the person a lesson? Or maybe you give in and end up feeling dissatisfied with the outcome.
How does it affect what you really want?
What do you get and what do you lose from your usual way of dealing with conflict?
Insights Into Conflict is one of several conflict education offerings the Montpelier Community Justice Center makes available to the community.
The intent of the 5-hour course is to encourage positive resolution of conflict by educating participants about conflict styles, the value and skill of cultivating curiosity and listening instead of reacting, and the choices we all have about how we manage conflict. In this class participants work with others to learn some new ways to think about disagreements that might help them carry less anger, have better relationships, and feel happier.
This interactive class supports healthy, informed choices regarding conflict. By the end of the course, participants will have accomplished these objectives:
Completed an exercise in considering the positive and negative effects of various conflict resolution styles
Considered their current values/beliefs and been exposed to alternative beliefs about conflict
Experienced the ways in which perceptions can vary and their relevance to conflict resolution
Explored attributes of conflict and its resolution
Learned about alternative styles of managing conflict
Looked at their personal relationship with conflict
Practiced analyzing a conflict and recognizing choices
Practiced listening (instead of reacting) while noting the effect that has on the person sharing the story and themselves
Four main points emphasized in this course are:
Forcing what you want won't be the best for you in the long run
There are two (or more) sides to every story
You can control what you do, not what others do
You have choices about how to handle conflict
This class can be tailored to specific audiences and delivered in one, two, or three sessions. Contact Yvonne Byrd at 802-262-6260 or by email for more information.
What people are saying about Insights into Conflict
"Acting how I normally do in a conflict, I hurt people I really care about."
"In every conversation, take time to listen to the person and try to understand where the other person may be coming from."
"The next time...I will approach a conflict with a hope of a good ending/understanding."